The Bridge Part 1: Everything You Need to Know About Goals

So, theoretically, you now understand that you're in control of your life, you now understand that no excuse is going to get you to the point where you are a happy and successful individual. So, where do we go from here? What is going to fill-in the gap between what we see ourselves becoming and where we are now?Enter the Bridge--a blog/video series that attempts to fill-in the gap. Part 1: Are Goals Important/WTF is a Goal :

  "If you don't know where you are going, you'll end up someplace else."- Yogi Berra

What is the purpose of a goal? So many successful people talk about goals and how we should all set them. Few of these people, however, give us any details about how we should go about setting these goals. A year ago, I emailed a few respected 'life coaches' across the country--I asked how one should go about setting goals. Most of them told me that an answer to my question would come at a price--specifically, 3 easy payments of $29.99; those that did supply an actual answer were not particularly helpful either: they more or less told me that just setting goals is all I should be worried about--they continued to say that, because of my youth, I'm already ahead of the game. And to me that is complete B.S. Because you know what: one day you and I are not going to be so young and the lessons we learn now and the habits that we develop now are going to be what we fall back on. So, please, do not think that the act of setting goals is going to help you become a happy and successful individual. And don't think that it will all figure itself out in the end--because it won't. Don't misconstrue this as me telling you not to set goals. Goal-setting is essential, but it's what the goal represents and how you go about selecting a goal that is actually important.

Back to the original question: What is the purpose of a goal? In my opinion a goal serves two important purposes:
  1. Effective Goals give you direction--something meaningful to aim for and something meaningful to achieve--the accomplishment of effective goals brings you closer to happiness and or success
  2. Effective Goals keep you accountable--they are an objective means to measuring one's progress.
  The key word preceding my mention of goal is effective. So many people set goals for things that have they have no interest in accomplishing. That is called wasting time--and time is something you're not going to get back. So what defines an effective goal? Enter the S.M.A.T. system.
     
        S.pecific-- The key to setting an effective goal is specificity. Whenever I ask a runner what goals they have they usually say something along the lines of, "I want to improve my times," or better yet, "I want to run a faster mile time." Ok, so obviously the second example is more specific because it is identifying the mile as what he/she wants to improve. However, it's not specific enough--my follow-up question would be how much faster do you want to run? Suppose the runner, who we will randomly call Anjan(is that even the name of anyone?), responds with, "I want to run a mile 20 seconds faster than my previous best"-- I would say great let's move on to the next step in the goal setting process. 

        M.easurable(prounounced Mayysurable--ok not really-- there's an inside joke there) My next question would be: Anjan what is your fastest current mile time? "Well I ran a 5:30 mile last year," says Anjan. We would then make Anjan's goal measurable by determining that he would have to run a 5:10(minus 20 seconds off of his PB) mile around Cary Academy's track. On to the next step in the goal-setting process! That was easy!

        A.ttainable--So Anjan, I would ask, are you willing and able to achieve this 5:10 mile? "Well golly gee, John what does willing and able mean?" It means are you willing to put in the effort to accomplish this  and are you able to sacrifice some sleep in the morning and those parties on the weekends so that you can get some extra training sessions in. Essentially, the attainable part of the process asks each of us how bad do you really want it? A hypothetical Anjan responds with,  "Well John, I really want this--I'll do whatever it takes--I'll take no days off!" Great Anjan, let's move on to the next step!

        T.imely--The final step in the process is putting a time period for you goal to be accomplished. While this time can change, you should have a general idea of when you want to accomplish your goal. Remember the importance of being specific. For our hypothetical Anjan, he will run his PR mile in a track meet during June at Cary Academy. The goal-setting process for this one goal is now complete.

As you can see, a little thought can go a long way. We went from a sub-optimal goal "I want to  run faster" to an effective goal: "I will run a 5:10 mile in a June track meet at Cary Academy." This shows us how creating effective goals is the key to remaining accountable: if June passes and the 5:10 mile never happens--then we know something went wrong. And because we know that something went wrong we can fix it for the next time.  Essentially, an effective goal-setting process allows us to accurately judge our successes and failures--which in turn allows us to progress as individuals. So remember the S.M.A.T. system the next time you think about your individual goals: it may be the difference between greatness and mediocrity.

Thanks for reading. JG

The Time is Now

                                     "Do or do not, there is no try." - Yoda

Wow. After a 6 month hiatus it is nice to be back. I would say that I'm back for good, but you never know with me--so let's just be happy.  Alright, on to the important stuff:

How have things been going? Are you, the reader, living life to the fullest?(no this does not include getting 'white girl' wasted during the weekends) Are you working toward a vision? Or, better yet, are you living in a vision? Are you improving yourself and how you treat others? Are you finally taking accountability for where you are in the present? Or are you still blaming those around you, refusing to accept that, in the end, it's you who has to live with the consequences of not living up to your potential--it's you who has to end up, 20 years from now, wondering what could have been. Regardless, I hope that you aren't settling for the mediocrity that is plaguing this country right now. I hope that you are daring to dream, daring to break free from the limits that are imposed by a society that refuses to see past self-imposed boundaries. This blog has been and always will be about pushing past our potential, not only striving for greatness but achieving it, not settling for what seems 'good enough' or 'acceptable', but living life so that you are both successful and happy. It may not seem possible, but if I have learned anything--it's that you can have both. And the time to start having both success and happiness is now.

My goal in writing this blog, and in having meetings after-school, and in posting videos is to help you become the exception to what is going on right now. Right now it's the norm for kids to go to college for 4 years or so and then leave unhappy, in debt, and without a plan for living a life that will leave them both successful and happy. I want you to know right now that this does not have to be you, and as a matter of fact it shouldn't be you. Life is too short and time is too valuable to be wasted meandering around with no sense of purpose. Ignorance can no longer be an excuse for us. We know what we are worth and now it's time to go out get what we're worth. It's not going to be easy--so let's get to work.

Thanks for reading. JG